Finding Focus In Unexpected Places

Finding Focus In Unexpected Places, Jason Gaskins, Peachtree Planning, Jays Hope, Cindy Gaskins, Middle Georgia Christian Voice, Macon, Ga, Georgia
Jason & Cindy Gaskins, Jay Gaskins,Finding Focus In Unexpected Places, Jason Gaskins, Peachtree Planning, Jays Hope, Cindy Gaskins, Middle Georgia Christian Voice, Macon, Ga, Georgia
Jason & Cindy Gaskins

Often people share powerful stories how they came to know Jesus, how they were saved, or the day they gave their lives to Christ. My story begins in a mundane way. My mother was a nun in high school, and my father was raised in the church. As a result of their upbringing, they raised me as a Christian. I don’t remember not being a Christian. I cannot point to a day on a calendar and say this is THE day….the day I met Jesus or the day I was saved. I’ve always felt I had a relationship with Jesus.

For us, 2003 started out as a typical year. In February I went on the Walk to Emmaus, my wife, Cindy and I rotate going. This retreat drew both of us as close as we had ever felt to Jesus. Little did we know God prepared us for the greatest challenge of our lives.

Strange Signs

Soon after the retreat, we took the kids to Disney for the first time. With a pregnant Cindy, we were excited to experience Disney World with our five-year-old daughter, Kaitlyn and two-year-old son, Jay. We spent five days trying to squeeze in every possible attraction in the parks.

In the hustle and bustle of 12-14 hour days, we didn’t think much about our two-year-old Jay Gaskins,Finding Focus In Unexpected Places, Jason Gaskins, Peachtree Planning, Jays Hope, Cindy Gaskins, Middle Georgia Christian Voice, Macon, Ga, Georgiatripping and falling often. We chalked it up to long, exhausting days in the park. Over the summer Jay began showing other strange signs something was not right. We noticed he slept twelve plus hours every day, he didn’t want to use his left hand, and he had balance issues.

Why Us?

All of these things we could explain away as a growing boy couldn’t we? Preschool started in the Fall, and surely things would “normalize.” The first week of school Jay’s teacher pulled Cindy aside and asked if Jay had been having balance issues. This devastated us to have someone else notice our son struggling. Within a couple of weeks, Jay had an MRI. The words no parent ever wants to hear “your child has a tumor” changed everything.

The thoughts of punishment and “why us” flooded our minds. Our hearts were breaking, and questions pounded us. Were we being punished for something we had done or not done? Other people’s children have cancer. These things happen to non-Christians not Christians, right?

Our Son’s Fight

Jay, Kaitlyn & Tanner Gaskins, Jason & Cindy Gaskins, Jay Gaskins,Finding Focus In Unexpected Places, Jason Gaskins, Peachtree Planning, Jays Hope, Cindy Gaskins, Middle Georgia Christian Voice, Macon, Ga, GeorgiaSurely God-loving, God-fearing people are not punished like this. I begged and pleaded with God to let this be a nightmare I’d wake up from. Let me trade places with him, Lord. I’ve lived 29 years on this earth, and he’s only had two. It felt like my prayer fell on deaf ears.

October of 2003 we moved Jay to St Jude to begin our two and a half year journey with cancer. Through the years there were extreme ups and downs, remissions and relapses.  Personal health issues and concerns arose but we pushed them to the side for the sake of focusing on Jay and his wellbeing. In December of 2005 St Jude told us the next worse thing a parent never wants to hear “there is nothing else we can do for your child. Go home and enjoy the days you have left.”

What Good Could Come From Cancer?

As a dad, you never want to feel helpless or out of control. Here I was with a five-year-old with terminal cancer unable to do a thing for my son but love him. Doubt crept into my mind. What was God doing?

He says in His word “All things work together for those who love God.” What good could come of this cancer? What good could possibly come from our family losing Jay? Didn’t God love us? Didn’t God love Jay? The depths I was sinking to seemed insurmountable. How will our family function moving forward?

Jay’s Hope

Jay passed away in March 2006. Just as we thought our journey was ending, we realized a new beginning. God laid on our hearts to create a foundation, an organization to minister to families going through what we had experienced.

Due to God’s leading and blessing Jay’s Hope has served thousands of children and their families. Through the gracious giving of others, we have been stewards to over $4,000,000 during the last twelve years. We have had the privilege and opportunity to stand in the gap for hurting families all over the state of Georgia. God uses Jay’s Hope Foundation as his conduit to reach the lost and minister the saved.

I Found Focus From The Painful Journey

Jay Gaskins,Finding Focus In Unexpected Places, Jason Gaskins, Peachtree Planning, Jays Hope, Cindy Gaskins, Middle Georgia Christian Voice, Macon, Ga, Georgia
The Gaskins Family – April 2018

The painful journey came into focus. Standing in Riverside Cemetery in April 2006 we could not see anything good coming from our son’s death. God had bigger plans for Jay’s life.

While we enjoyed five years with him on earth, God leveraged his life for the last twelve years to minister to countless others. So while I can’t point to a date on a calendar as to my salvation, I can point to an event which solidified my faith. Jay’s life and death brought my purpose and my family’s purpose into focus.

 

Peachtree Planning, Jason Gaskins, Macon, Middle Georgia Christian Voice

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Jason lives in Gray, Georgia with his wife, Cindy and their two children Kaitlyn and Tanner. Active in his community, Jason attends Christ Chapel, has served as Vice President of the Ronald McDonald House and currently serves as Vice President of Jay's Hope Foundation. Jason and his family lost a child to cancer in 2006. Shortly thereafter, they started Jay's Hope Foundation to improve the quality-of-life of children with cancer and their families in the state of Georgia by extending hope through social, emotional, spiritual and financial support. The Foundation's members accomplish their mission through serving, teaching, encouraging, contributing, leading, showing kindness towards others, and by sharing their faith in God. Jason is also a member of the Runners of Jones Co. Running Club, River Forest Country Club, and a First Presbyterian Day School booster. In his leisure he enjoys hunting, running, playing golf and coaching his kids' basketball and baseball teams. His office is located at 3643 Vineville Avenue, Macon, Georgia 31204.

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